Having Family Meetings to Resolve Eldercare Issues
By Mary Waggoner
A crisis can bring a family closer together and illustrate strength and love; or it can drive a wedge of resentment between members over elder care. Whenever a loved one’s health, safety or wellbeing becomes a concern, it is important to be proactive and address your loved one’s issues. If the issues come to a point of crisis, families – often spread out across several states – need to call themselves together to discuss the changes which are occurring and will occur in the future.
Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, states: "Most families are managed on the basis of crisis, moods, quick fixes, and instant gratification – not on sound principles. Symptoms surface whenever stress and pressure mount: people become cynical, critical, or silent or they start yelling and overreacting." If this is how you perceive a family meeting may progress, it is important to understand that it doesn’t have to. You can have family meetings that are under control and structured. Understand that you will never be able to please everyone all of the time, but that you are not meeting to meet your individual needs but those of your aging loved one.
Your first two family meetings should be small – only siblings or close family members who are in direct contact with your aging loved one. You definitely don’t want it to have alcohol rehab or substance abuse clinic feel to it. Regardless of how you feel about your extended family members, it is imperative that everyone be involved in the meetings. If meeting all together in person is not possible due to separation by miles, arrange for a conference call through three-way or conference calling. This service is available through your local phone company for a nominal monthly fee. Whether you choose to have an informal meeting or a structured meeting depends on your family style and how your family best works together.
For information about how the caregiving professionals at Andelcare can help your family with home care, Contact us at 888-788-3051. We are a home care agency providing in home care in Seattle WA and surrounding areas.