8 Things to Do When You First Learn Your Loved One Has Alzheimer’s By Paula Spencer, Caring.com senior editor Practical steps you can take when you’re wondering, "Where do I start?" Let reality sink in. Whether you’ve suspected the diagnosis for ages or it’s come as a shock, absorbing the reality ahead of you can be a sobering — but critical — process. Especially if much of the burden of care will fall on your shoulders, it’s useful to start out recognizing that Alzheimer’s disease can be an emotional roller coaster. Uncertainty about the disease’s pace can make planning for the future difficult. Alzheimer’s is considered a chronic disease that can continue for 15 to 20 years or more, with progressively more challenging stages whose length and experience can vary widely from person to person. The average life expectancy after a diagnosis depends on one’s age at diagnosis and the severity of symptoms; a major long-term study has found that in general the disease shortens life expectancy to about half that of someone the same age without the disease. A person with severe symptoms at diagnosis is apt to be shorter-lived than someone with mild symptoms, whose downward spiral may begin quite slowly and last 15 years or more. Even as your focus is on your loved one’s health, it will be critical to stay aware of what you’re experiencing and how it affects the many dimensions of your life. Disbelief, denial, grief, fear, and financial worry are just some of the very common feelings you can be expected to have.Talk to other family members to help make the situation more "real" and to get a reality check on how you’re handling it. Get to know the turf. Alzheimer’s is seldom a disease people in midlife have much firsthand experience with. Take some time to learn a bit about what you’re dealing with. You’ll find masses of information out there. Shortcuts on what’s critical: Alzheimer’s stages, common care-giving issues, and what treatments are available, including any medications your loved one’s doctor prescribes and any lifestyle practices that can forestall the disease’s progress. One particularly insightful kind of reading is a book written by someone who has the disease, which may help you step into your loved one’s shoes and anticipate issues. A good choice is Alzheimer’s From the Inside Out by Richard Taylor. continue reading from caring.com Andelcare caregivers are available to talk with you and your family about all of your care needs, including, how to reduce caregiver stress while providing better, affordable in home care to your loved one. Andelcare is a home care agency providing Elder Care in Seattle WA and the surrounding communities.